Outstanding

 

Outstanding 


 


“My life has been a tapestry of rich and royal hue
An everlasting vision of the ever-changing view--
A wondrous woven magic in bits of blue and gold
A tapestry to feel and see, impossible to hold.”  
--Carol King, Tapestry

 

On a cold February day in 1965, a little fella was born to Bob and Lynda Bird of Menomonie, Wisconsin. They named him Tim, and Tim had an older sister by a year and a couple of weeks, Tammy.  After Tim, came Steve, Kevin, and Amy, and the family was complete. Tim grew up rough-housing and watching the Packers with his brothers, sisters, and many cousins. A day in the life of Tim, as a youngster, consisted of getting up each day, dressed and ready at 7:00 a.m., helping out with farm chores, taking the bus ride to and from school, and enjoying after-school activities as well as church events--a normal upbringing in all respects with the added bonus that Tim was an exceptionally hard worker, who never quit until the job was done right.

            As an adult, Tim chose a career working at Tiffany Creek Elementary School. Any test or worksheet that Boyceville kids completed was most likely printed under Tim´s careful oversight.  He also travelled to other neighboring districts from time to time as a guest speaker.  Of course, he remained a Packer super-fan as well. Throughout his career he maintained his steady schedule and was never late for work. Chances are if you have spent any time in Boyceville, you have met Tim Bird.

Tim was a globe trekker well beyond Dunn County. He collected friends from his journeys to Europe and Scandinavia, eight different countries in total. It was not unusual for him to be found up front next to the bus drivers and tour guides on his tours, as they would be so taken with his personality that they would reserve a special seat for him. On this continent, he traveled to more states than most of us will ever have the opportunity to visit.  He even assisted the camp cook on a wagon train out in Wyoming one summer.

Tim was an Olympian. You can Google it. He was also an artist, with a specialty in marker-art and an impressive collection of inks and papers. In whatever Tim set his mind to try, he found himself successful. In recent years, his homemade bird houses have sold for hundreds of dollars at the annual family reunion auction. Our family’s summer reunion, by the way, is an in-demand, well-attended corporation of movers and shakers, and Tim is the official Sheriff and Parking Supervisor. He is also the boat skipper.  Not an enemy in the world, anybody who has ever met him, has never forgotten him or walked away a lesser person. He’s just that sort of guy.

And we lost him this past week. Tim was my husband´s godson, and personally, he was my marker-art, Pringles, and word-search comrade. The loss is vast and the hole he has left is deep. You see, while everything I´ve written about Tim up to this point paints a picture of a normal fun-loving family member, there is one more fact about Tim that has made his extraordinary life even more extraordinary. Tim has what is referred to as Trisomy 21, familiarly known as Downs Syndrome.   According to the CDC, children with Downs Syndrome back in the 1960s meant that a child might live to be 10 years old but not much older. The majority of those children were referred to institutions that did not necessarily know how to teach or care for the specific special needs of Downs kids.

Trisomy 21/Downs means that at conception, the 21st position of the 23 chromosomes pairs contains “a pair and a spare.”  Each parent contributes 23 chromosomes to create the zygote (fertilized egg), to make 23 pairs. In Downs, there are three instead of two #21 chromosomes, for a total of 47 chromosomes instead of 46. This causes a child to have specific physical characteristics, and significant health challenges. Tim was born with four holes in his heart, with little hope of survival. Each check-up at the doctor’s office was met by surprise on the part of the medical staff that spunky little Tim was still hanging in there. By his teenage years, his heart had healed and he was able to be medication-free in that regard.

Fortunately for Tim, his parents chose not to institutionalize him, but to bring him up in a normal, rambunctious household, where there were chores and expectations, and unconditional acceptance. Tim escaped stigmas that otherwise may have stifled his growth and education. He was integrated from birth into his community, and Tim thrived.

  Tim’s memorial service, was a standing-room-only event. In the tapestry of his life, Tim was able to weave countless friends into the fabric of his years. He has seen mountains and oceans. He has heard concert orchestras in grand halls, and given serenades on his guitar. He has held newborn nephews and nieces and nurtured them as they grew up graduated and advanced on to college. He has mucked barns and savored the fragrance of the season’s first mown hay, then gotten on a plane and flown to a Norwegian fjord. He has enjoyed a summer Leinenkugel in the backyard, and 24 hours later toasted with his friends and family at the Hofbrauhaus in Munich. In the words of his sister, Tammy, “He has gambled at Vegas. He’s looked down into the Grand Canyon. He’s heard the falls at Niagara, and climbed the Rockies. He spun on top of the Seattle Space Needle and sat next to Mickey Mouse. What can we say? He deserved a life like the rest of us.”

Tim’s eyes took in every moment of his experiences with appreciation for his one life on this planet, and reflected it back onto us all. If you ever greeted him and asked how he was, the answer was always “Outstanding.”  He outran the defense, as a true Packer should. Tim was 59.  “If you ever met Tim, you were loved.” –Molly Tyroler, Tim’s niece.

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